1. Start and end each day with gratitude.

Spend at least one minute immediately after waking up and prior to drifting off to sleep to reflect on the blessings in your life. You can even create a gratitude list and add to it daily.  Doing this simple step every morning and every night will help shift your focus away from the commercialization of the holidays to a state gratitude. You will notice the abundance already present in your life. Isn’t that what the holidays are all about anyway?

2. Give gifts because you want to not because you have to.

Gifts are meant to be given out of love and appreciation for the other person, not out of obligation.  Do you really have to give your great aunt twice removed who you speak to once a year a gift? Perhaps a card with a note that includes your favorite memory of her would be more significant. This nice gesture will save you time, energy, and money and will prove to be more meaningful to her.

3. Learn to say “No.”

A major contributor to stress this time of year is over-committing and doing things that you don’t really want to do.  Not only does this consume valuable time that could be better spent with those you really love, but surrounding yourself with negative and toxic people  often drain your energy.  This is a skill that becomes easier the more you practice.

4. Resolve to be kind and tolerant.

The holiday season brings out the best and worst in people. Between hurried shoppers stealing your parking spots to family members making inappropriate or hurtful remarks , it is easy to become resentful and angry. However, you can’t change anyone else. You can only control your reaction to them. Usually their actions are more about their own insecurities and painful life circumstances  and not actually about you.  By deciding ahead of time to be kind and tolerant, it becomes easier to remain neutral and calm. Instead of feeling drained, angry and hurt, you can step away from the situation feeling empowered. Besides, will most of these situations matter in January?

5. Take time to care for yourself. EVERY. DAY.

This is probably the most important. You MUST take time to care for yourself every day. By doing so, your outlook on life will be much better during and after the holidays. You will feel less exhausted, more relaxed, and ready to welcome a happy and prosperous New Year. Finding small ways to re-energize goes a long way. Take a 10-minute walk around the block or sip on a cup of tea or coffee to unwind from your shopping extravaganza. Get a massage. Soak your feet in epsom salts. Spend a few minutes sitting quietly and reflect on things you learned throughout the year.  The few minutes you carve out just for yourself allow you to remain centered and experience the joy and wonder of the holiday season.

Wishing you the “Happy” in Happy Holidays from Desert Wellness Center!

 

article by: Dr. Barbara Ezrre